Chapter 36 – The Power of NO

One of the first words that we assign meaning to in our lives is the word “no”. We teach babies to know no and they are quick to give it right back to us.

Mother: “Come to mommy”

Baby “No.”

No, is the first boundary we learn and quite possibly the most powerful word that we have in our arsenal when we wage the war for self-improvement.

We say yes to pizza when dieting and yes to that which is not contributing to our betterment or worse – we say nothing at all. Simply let it crash over us like waves at a beach, powerless as we emit a voiceless “yes”, allowing the circumstances to do what it will with us.


No is a complete sentence.

No is a whole statement.

No is a declaration.

No is a command.

No is not the opposite of yes because no is the end like a period where as yes often acts as a continuation like a comma. Yes, is a green light where traffic pours in while no is that red light that shuts it all down.

No, is more than a word, it is an attitude, it is a single syllable word that has its own life and personality.

No is the beginning of change…..

(NKJV)Matthew 5:37 “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ be ‘No. For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” – Jesus Christ

Jesus said that no means no and nothing else needs to be added to it. Jesus understood the Power of No better than most people give him credit for. We are obsessed with the yeses of Jesus, the healings, the miracles, the powerful sermons just the overall savage I-do-want-I-want Jesus life. Jesus had the yes of the Father, so He did everything from that…but he encountered more than a few no’s in His journey the biggest No sealed His fate.

(Matthew 26:39 “…. My Father if there is any way, get me out of this. But please, not what I want. You, what do you want?”

Matthew 26:42 “He then left them a second time. Again, he prayed, “My Father, if there is no other way than this, drinking this cup to the dregs, I’m ready. Do it your way.” (The Message translation)

Reading in between the lines, Jesus took a no, in fact He took two of them…….actually 3. He prayed three times the same prayer and and got “No” three times. He did not want to go through the misery of what was set to happen.

No is the denial of the will of something to dominate you.

No, I will not quit this marriage.

No, I will not take this like a chump.

No, I will not be a victim.


Every man in my family cheated on his woman and left his family, I don’t know if I can be different.


My friends never left the block, there are no opportunities and statistics say I’m screwed.


That person/job/church crushed my heart and don’t believe I can love again.


My businesses failed multiple times, I just want to shut it down and go back to a 9-5 gig


I had a child as a teenager, I’m stuck, and I won’t be able to do anything but just work and parent.


I am too old to start a new career.



No is defiance.

With defiance comes invigoration,

with invigoration comes renewal,

with renewal comes focus,

with focus comes inevitable success.

When you stamp NO, you have just put into check that which is against you.

This far and NO more.

Bluntly speaking, it takes some real balls to say “no” and mean it. No does not come with a “plan B” It is a proclamation that says that whatever is happening will NO longer be allowed and that’s it. We will figure out what is next later. The funny part is we usually have the answer for what is next, we are just too scared to reverse gears by pumping the brakes with No and making the decision we should have long since made.

Like with Jesus, what comes with the power of No is the grace to attack the issue at hand. See, the Grace that comes from God makes someone unbreakable, unbeatable and undeniable. This is in full acknowledgement that your body can be broken, beaten and denied, but the power of No does not accept that as truth even if it costs you your life. When you believe that, you are already undefeated.

Now this sounds like nice philosophy and yes, it is a way of thinking, but I dare you to say no to something that you have not said no to yet. Something that has had complete access to your money, to your thoughts, to your body to that which is sacred to you or should be.

No to that toxic relationship.

No to that peer pressure.

No to that lust.

No to that poor self image.

No to that abuse.

No to that greed.

No to that unhappiness.

No to that addiction.

No to that depression.

Try it, say no. Literally say NO out loud next time that thing rolls up, say it and act like you believe it and watch how powerful you become.


No…is also a prayer to God and an answer from Him. Best prayer you can say and best answer you can hear, it leaves no room for nonsense, just raw truth.

Thank God that Jesus heard a No, where would we be…………………?


  1. That was absolutely powerful bro. I loved everything about this!

    Too often do we give our attention, body and mind over to things that are lesser and are under our feet. Yet, as you so eloquently put it…

    “When you stamp NO, you have just put into check that which is against you.”

    Such relevant examples throughout your post and life altering perspectives that people need to hear. Thank you for being both brave and bold enough to speak on this!

    Liked by 1 person

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